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Steinberg defines love in terms of intimacy, passion, and commitment, which he claims exist in varying levels in different romantic relationships.
Fisher defines love as composed of three stages, attraction, romantic love, and attachment.
Most psychologists and relationship counselors predict a decline of intimacy and passion over time, replaced by a greater emphasis on companionate love (differing from adolescent companionate love in the caring, committed, and partner-focused qualities).
However, couple studies have found no decline in intimacy nor in the importance of sex, intimacy, and passionate love to those in longer or later-life relationships.
As frustrating and desperate as it can feel at times, selecting the person you’re going to share your life with should require more discerning thought than most any other decision you make in your life. Just like you, being vulnerable (especially on the Internet) is a risk.