You may start emulating your favorite comedians or storytellers to hone your wit. You may run into a number of dead ends before you find the thing that clicks for you – the less said about, say, my Affliction-knock-off phase the better. Sometimes it may take something minor to trigger the difference.
You might be surprised at what thing flips your switch and turns you from “nice” to “niiiiiiice.” Something as simple as going from tennis shoes to Doc Martins might be what triggers your transformation.
It’s not that getting inked makes me more confident, it’s that it’s bringing me more in line with who I ” is incredibly powerful.
When you can harness that feeling, it will infuse every inch of your being. The other thing to keep in mind: you don’t need to be perfect, rich or otherwise have your shit completely together.
You may start working with weights or trying a sport.
Your swagger might be found in picking up martial arts or trying parkour, just to see what it’s like being a ninja.
Whenever someone is describing their partner and comes out with “he’s a nice guy and…” then the countdown clock to their break-up has started.